“Give them an inch and they will take a mile.”
I believe that if people are in a positon to help others, they should help others. However, it does not mean that you should be used as a doormat for people to walk on you every day without doing something for themselves.
Some people do not speak to you on a regular basis and only know you when they want something from you but when you need them, they are not there for you. Some people want you to give them everything they need or want without working for it. If you do, you are not helping them in the long run. In fact, you are enabling them to take advantage of you.
Some people are in relationships and are being taken advantage of financially, sexually, physically and verbally. They remain in these types of relationships for years and soon some of them think it is the norm to be taken advantage of. You do not deserve to be taken advantage of. Stand up and get out.
Some people are on the job and are being taken advantage of. Some people are getting paid below their pay scale. Some people are working so hard and yet being overlooked for promotion. Some people have delegated most of their work to others and then when the work is completed, they act like they were the ones who did it without giving any credit to the actual employees who did the work. Some people are being treated as slaves but there are also some employees who are also taking advantage of their employer by coming to work late, being on social media for hours when they are getting paid to be working.
This article will offer some tips on how to deal with people who take advantage of others.
Say No sometimes
There are some people who have a very “soft” heart and cannot seem to say no even when they are not in a position to help or don’t want to help. You must practice saying no sometimes otherwise people will continue to use you. Sometimes the people you help, do not need help and many times, they are asking for help from multiple persons and they may end up getting more than what they really need.
Know you worth.
Some people suffer from inferiority complex. They think some people are better than them and so they help them all of the time so they can remain in the “circle”. Know you worth. You are worth more than you imagine. No one is better than you. You do not have to let anyone take advantage of you to fit in. If you allow this to happen, this suggest you did not belong in the “circle” in the first instance.
Guide and train them
Stop giving people money every time they ask you. Try and help them to secure a job or a better paying job or even try to assist them in establishing their own business. Therefore, rather than letting people take advantage of you, whenever they ask you for help, guide them and train them to become better individuals so that they can take care of themselves and hopefully once they improve their conditions, they can help others the same way you help them.
Tell them how you feel
I think the best approach but a hard one is to be open and honest with the individuals. Tell them how you feel. Some people may not even realize that they are taking advantage of you until you bring it to their attention. On the other hand, there are some that know exactly what they are doing and if you do not deal with it, they will continue to take advantage.
Everybody should help somebody but do not let anyone use you and abuse you. People sometimes take your generosity to a different level and it is unfair to you. You should not tolerate it or accept it.