For too long, many of us are living our lives or afraid to live our lives because of the opinions of others. Do not let the opinions of others define who you are and how you should live. I know for years the opinions of others bother me so much that I try to live my life to please others. However, I was not being me. I was being someone to please the opinions of others
The Bible is the guide on how you should live. If you know who you are and you are living according to the standards in the bible then the opinions of others should not matter to you. After all, everybody has an opinion and if you live your life to please others, it will be difficult to satisfy the opinions of others. Furthermore, no matter what you do, people will still have an opinion about you.
We see in the book of Matthew 16, Jesus asked the disciples who do people say the Son of Man is. They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, Jeremiah or one of the prophets.” 15 “But what about you?” he asked. “Who do you say I am?” Jesus did not care about what others thought about him. He was more or less interested in the faith of the disciples.
If you know who you are and what you were called to do, then stayed focused and stop being concerned about the opinions of others.
Each person is unique. No two persons are the same even though two people may act the same. Accept who you are and do not try to change who you are to please the opinions of others. Many people remain living a sheltered life and do not want to face anyone because they are afraid of what others think about their size, the clothes they wear and how they look. Some people even resort to bleaching their skin but yet it is so obvious and people still do not accept your “bleached” skin. Some people even become depressed because of the opinions of others.
Many of you are pretending to be something else that you are not because you are concern about the opinions of others. Many of you are in white collar jobs because from a society point of view, it looks good but you are not happy because that is not want you want you to do.
Do not give up
Sometimes you may discover your purpose late in life and when you start carrying out your purpose, you may get discouraged because many people may not encouraged you. If you discover your purpose, pursue it with a passion even if people are questioning your purpose for doing what you do. No one needs to know why you do what you do as long as you know you are doing what you were called to do.
Sometimes people are intimidated or jealous of what you are doing and so they will not support what you are doing and they provide opinions of what you are doing to others. Eventually, you will hear about what they say about you and you may feel like giving up. Do not give up. If you give up, the only people that won would be your opinionators.
You will never please everyone
If you are concerned about the opinions of others, it will be difficult for you to achieve your goals because everyone has an opinion and sometimes there is so much variation in opinions. How can you please the opinions of the others that are so different? The key thing is do not live your live to please others. Furthermore no matter what you try to do to show to people that their opinions of you are inaccurate, some people are so set in their ways and will not change their opinions on what they think about you.
Therefore, live your life that is acceptable and pleasing to God. Do not try to please people.
Some of you may have made mistakes in your business or even a relationship. However, because you are so concern about what others think about you, you remain in that failed business or failed relationship making yourself so miserable.
Accept the fact that mistakes happen. Get out of it and move on.
You can accomplish so much if you do not the let the opinions of others bother you. People will talk about you anyway and sometimes your own family members but you cannot let their opinions define you.
Be confident in who you are and stop running back and forth to others to get their opinion. Have faith and believe in yourself and believe that you are great and you can do what you were called to do. Stay Focused. You see the opinions of some people change on a daily basis and if you are living to please them then you would have to change daily too.