Learn to validate yourself

You need you more than you need them

Learn to validate yourself

You don’t need validation from others


Many of us feel like that we need validation from others to feel like you are doing the right thing. While getting validation from others can be an encouragement, it can also be very dangerous because if you are seeking validation from other people and when they don’t provide it to you or they are not saying what you want them to say, you can become dissatisfied which can lead to depression and other psychological issues. Furthermore, you may even try to change who you are so you can fit in or get the validation that you are looking for.

Everybody loves encouragement from others but don’t live your life based on validation from others. It is time that you learn to validate yourself. According to Merriam Webster dictionary, self-validation is “the feeling of having recognized, confirmed, or established one’s own worthiness or legitimacy.”

Learn to validate yourself

Self-validation should be a significant part of your life. You have to reach a point in your life where you do not care about what others think and say about you. I know many of us are on social media and we post many things. Sometimes you may feel bad that no one liked your post or you only have a few likes. If you are posting things to get likes, you will easily get discouraged and you will stop posting because you feel that your posts are not effective. Do you know that many people are reading your posts and they like it but somehow they just don’t press like.

Learn to validate yourself by accepting who you are which includes your strengths and your weaknesses. Document your strengths and you will realize how much you are worth. Everybody has strengthens so don’t tell yourself you only have weaknesses. Now after you document you strengths, document your weaknesses and do your best to transform those weaknesses into strengths. Each weakness is an opportunity for you to become stronger. If you don’t know how to improve your weakness, do some research on your weaknesses and deal with those weaknesses.

Love yourself. Love who you are and who you will become. If you don’t love yourself, you will always try to seek the attention of others or try to be like others

Tell yourself that you are important no matter how you feel or what others think about you. You will not be lying for you are important.

You don’t need validation from others.

Sometimes validation from others can cause you to be “wishy washy.” Deep down inside, you know what you want and what you believe in but depending on the validation or the lack of validation from others, you may change what you believe in and even change your desires. So you see, you need to be careful trying to seek the need to be validated from others.

Everybody has a mind of their own and everybody has their own story so you don’t need the acceptance of the experience of other people to feel validated. Each person’s experience may be different and you may end up getting misleading validation.

Finally some of the validation from others may not be genuine so sometimes you have to take it as a grain of salt. In fact, if you are not careful, you may discover you are being set up to say or do something that others want that they themselves are afraid to say or do.


Sometimes we may say we don’t need validation from others but our actions say otherwise. As I say there is nothing wrong with getting validation from others but don’t let it be your only means to uplift yourself. There is power within you and so use that power to validate yourself.

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