It is not a joking matter but rather very harmful
If you have been following my writings or read my book (Rise Up and Take Your Position), you will know that I suffered from inferiority complex, and it all started from negative name calling. Thankfully after suffering for so many years I have overcome this painful experience. I know I overcame this because I am unbothered by the name calling. I was tested recently when a lady called me ugly not just once, but three times. She may have been joking but I don’t know whether she was joking or not, it was not nice nor was it appropriate what she did. I did not get into any confrontation with the lady, but her negative calling prompted me to write this article.
Too many people are allowing negative words to come out of their mouths. Parents are saying negative things to their children and when children become what they spoke over their lives, they wonder why their children are like that. Siblings are calling each other negative names. The power of life and death is in the tongue and our name calling is impacting the lives of people. We are killing people by the very words we speak. We are interfering with the destination of people by what we say.
I encourage all of you including myself to think before you speak. Do not speak anything negative over anyone. Always say something positive.
The impact of negative name calling
Many people are suffering from low self-esteem just because of what they were called. Unfortunately, some of us do not even realize what we are doing. If you keep calling someone dumb, they may become dumb. You called someone nasty, they become nasty. You call someone stupid; they may become stupid. You called someone an idiot; they may become an idiot. By calling people these names, we are basically putting a curse on the lives of these individuals. This may sound simple, but it is so true. If you don’t think this is true, think about some of the people who you addressed negatively. Also think about the names that people called you. Weren’t you impact by it? I interviewed a young lady recently on my youtube channel which you will see in a few weeks and during the interview, she revealed she suffered from low self because she was being teased about her tall height. Now you may think this is not an issue but what you think may not be an issue may be an issue for someone else.
Calling someone a negative name may impact someone’s self-worth. Some people even commit suicide because of the name calling. You see some people have been called negative names from their homes and so they think that is who they are. That is why it is important for us to have a positive home environment so at least when people go in the community, hopefully they will remember the positive things spoken at home and so they will be not bothered by what is spoken to them in the community.
Overcoming negative calling
One way to counteract negative calling is to be positive and to speak positive things speak positive things over the lives of individuals. Parents no matter how your children look or act, don’t say anything negative to your children. Encourage their siblings and friends to say something positive to one another. The more positive things they you instill in others, the more they can think positive about themselves.
Another way to overcome negative calling is not to respond with a negative calling. I know sometimes people may tell you if someone call you a negative name, you should also call them a negative name. This does not solve anything. In fact, it makes matters worst because it may become confrontational and end up in violence.
If someone calls you a negative name, talk to someone about it. Don’t be like me. I kept everything to myself, smiling on the outside but suffering on the inside. I believed if I had talk to someone about what was going on, I would not have suffered that long from low self-esteem. The thing is if you don’t say anything to someone, people may not know what you are going through and if they do not know what you are going through, then no one can help you.
Some people may not realize the impact they are doing by the negative name calling. However, I hope after reading this article, you become conscious of the impact that name calling has on individuals. Negative name calling is so mean. Why do we have to be mean to others. Let us be kind to one another.