Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-28
One of the main issues in the world today is the stability of marriage. Sometimes you may wonder does it make sense to get married. Some people have been married multiple times and still do not think they have found the right one. However, there are many individuals who have been married for many years and are committed and loyal to each other. The key to a stable marriage is to love one another. Love is the key for everything. If you love each other then you should honour the institution of marriage, you should not abuse each other, you should not cheat on each other, you should not talk down to each other and you should help each other.
Should you get married?
If you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together, then get married. Unfortunately though, sometimes it is not love, it is infatuation, it is physical appearance of the individual you love. Don’t get married just because of the physical beauty. Ensure you know the inner beauty too otherwise you may be in for a big surprise when you get married and realize that all that glitters is not gold.
God does not want us to have sex before marriage but we know many of us are doing it and have done it and so the word of God instructed us to get married rather than burn with passion. However, getting married for sex alone is not wise, make sure you love that individual. Unfortunately some people are having sex with each other but do not love each other, they just love the sex.
Some women may have gotten pregnant and have children out of wedlock and may think the best thing to do is to get married. I know society sometimes make you feel shame and embarrassed but do not get married just because you had children out of wedlock.
Some women are dating men who have multiple girlfriends. This is a warning. Do not get married to that guy as he will not stop dating the other women. You do not need to be in a marriage just to say you are married and your husband has other girlfriends. That can’t be love.
Do not get married just because you are lonely or because you are getting old or because you want to have children. Get married because of your love for each other. If you do not know what love is, then read 1 Corinthians 13
Should you stay married?
God really wants us to stay married forever but if your husband or wife is cheating on you, you have grounds for divorce. However, despite the unfaithfulness, some people try to work it out.
There are cases whereby wives and husbands are being abused emotionally and physically. I don’t think anyone should stay in an abusive marriage. God wants us to love one another and he wants husbands to love their wives like Christ love the church. Abusing someone cannot be love in any shape or form.
Some married couples say they are fighting all of the time, they have a sexless marriage and some say they are just like roommates. I believe these situations can be fixed and you should try to save your marriage. Don’t quit your marriage because of these situations, you may get married again and experience the same because the problem may be you.
Some of you may be attracted to someone else and you think this other person is the person. Do not leave your spouse for that person. Furthermore, it is easy to be attracted to a beautiful person but that does not mean you should leave your spouse every time you find yourself being attractive to someone. If you do, chances are you may end up repeating the same thing later in life on the same person you left your spouse for.
Marriage is a great institution that was designed by God. Unfortunately, some marriages failed but there is no need to look back with regrets or guilt. Perhaps some of you married the wrong person. I don’t know but I do know that mistakes happen and being divorced or separated will not stop you from going to Heaven. However, you should try your best to maintain your marriage and abide by the word of God.
It is not easy being married to someone who is opposite to you as most married people are opposite in terms of their personality. However, opposite attracts and can bring a balance to your marriage.