It is not the real deal, it is artificial.
Sometimes we make decisions because the grass appears to be greener on the other side. Of course, there are many cases where the grass is greener. I am cognizant of the fact that some people make decisions not because the grass is greener, it is because the situation they are currently in is really out of hand and they need to get out and move ahead in life.
This article therefore is about people who make decisions because they think the grass is greener on the other side. Don’t be too hasty or too emotional when making a decision to leave your country, your job or a relationship.
Don’t leave because you see others did it. You should know what your goals are and make the decision to exit based on your personal goals and not on others. The people you are watching thinking their grass is greener may not be so.
The other country may not be greener
Many Caribbean nationals leave their country to migrate to Canada, USA and UK. However, some individuals are better off remaining in their country. While you may earn more money, the cost of living may be higher in these other countries. Furthermore, your freedom to express yourself will be limited and you are basically considered a stranger or foreigner in another country until you become a citizen. In addition, you may leave your close family and friends behind and you will feel alone in another country. Trust me there is no place like home. Some of these places are so cold and if you are from the Caribbean, you would be yearning for sunlight frequently.
While I encourage people to take a break from their home country for exposure and experience, don’t ever leave with the intention of not returning because the grass is sometimes not greener.
Before you migrate to another country, take a vacation and spend some weeks in that country to see if you think this is what you want. There are some people who suddenly migrate to a country without even visiting it and when they get there, they realize they made a mistake.
The other job may not be greener
Many people leave jobs for a myriad of reasons but one of the main reasons people leave is due to higher pay. However, the higher pay may come with a lot of responsibilities. You may have to work so many hours. You may also have a lot of taxes to pay. The environment may be a toxic environment. The management style may be awful. The thing that you are running away from, you may also be running to it on the next job.
Before you move to another job, do a lot of research on the company. Find out the employee turnover rate. Discreetly enquire with current and former employees. While a higher salary is a great thing, you must also be happy on your job.
I rather have a lower salary and be happy than to have a higher salary and be angry and upset about going to work daily.
The other relationship may not be greener
Some people have been blessed to get out of a relationship and meet others. However, there are some who though the grass was greener. They were looking at the outward appearance of individuals and when they get to know the inner side of that individual, they realize that the outward appearances do no match their inner side.
If you are in a bad relationship, get out of it but don’t rush into another one thinking it may be better.
Many people want to achieve more and they feel in order to do so, they must get out of the current situation. Sometimes, this is not necessarily true. What you need to do is to examine your current situation and see what you can do to enhance it and improve it.
Water your grass on a daily basis so that you can maintain the “greenness” You see the other green grass you are looking at it may be just artificial green grass. When you discover that the grass is not greener, do not be afraid to return where you came from.