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Tackle the breakdown of our families

A major root causes of crime

Introduction

There is a blame game going on when it comes to dealing with the crime situation particularly blaming the Commissioner of the Police, the Governor and the Premier. I too blamed these individuals sometimes and the reason I blamed them is because we are not finding and arresting the criminals. However, even if they were to find the criminals, there will always be other criminals among us because we need to address the root causes of crime and one of the root causes of crime is that there is a breakdown in our families.

Breakdown in our families

There is a breakdown in our family structure. Our family is not the way it used to be. We are not raising our young men and women like how our parents raised us. There is no order in some of our families, there is little supervision of our children, there is the absence of one of one of the parents and so some young people are doing what they want to do and even raising themselves and when there is no law and order, it is an invitation for violence.

Our young people are no longer listening to gospel music. They spend a lot of their time listening to secular music and we as parents sometimes do not even know what our children are listening to.  Whatever they are listening to, they may act it out. I interviewed my son, Jowell which will be aired this week on my YouTube channel. He told me that most of the music they listened to, has lyrics about killing and sex and so people will act that out. It is time we know what our children are listening to and restrict what they can listen to. This simple little act may save their lives or prevent them from becoming violent.

We grew up going to church every Sunday and as a result there was a fear of God and because there was a fear of God, we did not do some of the things that we knew were wrong. Today, many of us are not taking our families to church and so our children do not know about the fear of God and because they do not fear God, they have become fearless and committed violent crimes. I therefore challenge the church to go families if the families are not going to the church.

We also grew up as a community where our neighbours would chastise us if we did something wrong or they would tell our parents. Today, if some of our neighbours chastise our children, we ge offended. Furthermore, some of our neighbours may see our children doing things out of the way but we do not tell the parents and so some parents are blinded at what their children do.

Of course, there are some parents who well know what is going on in their homes. There are red flags. They see their children with expensive items, and they are not working but we accept some of the things they brought into our homes without asking questions. You see the love of money is one of the reasons why these crimes are taking place in our country. We have created a greedy society, and everybody wants more money, and they will do whatever it takes to get money. One short cut is getting involve in the sale of drugs.

Some families are also aware who are committing these crimes, but they think they are saving their families by not saying anything. They need to report their family and get help for them otherwise they will continue to commit crimes.

Conclusion

Think about crime in terms of your health. The doctor did not cause you to be unhealthy unless he or she gave you the wrong medication which is uncommon. The point I am trying to make is that we blamed the doctors for our conditions when all we need to do is to address the root cause of or health issue which is our diet. The same is with crime. The police are not responsible for making criminals, there are other factors such as the breakdown in families. The job of the police is to catch the criminals and so the police is not responsible for how an individual became a criminal.

Let me conclude with this bold statement. Perhaps it is time for a change in leadership at the Police Force but even if there is a change (whether local or expatriate), if we do not address the root causes of crime, criminal activities will continue to take place. Family needs to take responsibility and rebuild the family structure that has been destroyed.

I wrote my own legacy.
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What do you want your legacy to be?

Live a legacy to impact others and to help your future generations

Introduction

We will not live on this earth forever because one day we will die. Therefore, live a life that will create a positive impact on others. Some of you may argued and say what difference does it make about your legacy because you will be dead. The truth is your legacy really matters. It can be negative or positive.

While I have my own personal feelings about the British monarchy, the death of Queen Elizabeth has impacted the world. There was mixed reaction about her legacy, however, the majority was positive.

What do you want your legacy to be? Other people, your children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren will be impacted by your legacy. No one knows the future. For instance, you may have helped someone and later in life that same person you helped may helped your children or grandchildren. Likewise, if you did something wrong to individuals, people would remember what you did and may not want to help your children.

Live and leave a good legacy

I think the greatest example of someone who lived a good legacy was Jesus Christ. He left a legacy of love, hope, empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and kindness.

Love is the solution to most of our issues. Let us therefore live a legacy of love. Demonstrate love to your family and friends and even to your enemies. It does not make sense leaving a legacy of hatred. Hatred leads to violence while love covers a multitude of sins.

There is so much hopelessness in our society, however, you can improve this by providing hope to someone. You can do this through the life you live and what you say to others. If someone tell you something in confidence, don’t erase that person’s hope by sharing that information to others.

I think many of us lack empathy and compassion for others. The thing is some of us want people to have empathy for them, but they don’t want to have empathy for others. Do not leave a legacy of selfishness. One of the reasons why there is so much suffering is due to our lack of empathy and compassion for others.

Some people have die not forgiving others and has passed this legacy of unforgiveness to your inheritance. Do not block your blessings and your children’s blessings because your heart is full of unforgiveness. Learn to forgive others and encourage others to do the same.

Some of us also love to complain about everything. Why don’t you try and make the changes about the things you are complaining about. This will be a great legacy to live by and leave for others to emulate.

Speaking about changes, many people refer to us as being passive. Some say we inherited that from our ancestors. There is nothing wrong with being passive but don’t let anyone use you or abuse. Learn to be aggressive when the need arises. Learn to speak up and out without assassinating the characters of others.

Conclusion

I asked a few people what they want their legacy to be, and they all said a millionaire. There is nothing wrong with aspiring to be a millionaire but focused on impacting the lives of others in a positive manner. The life you live is your story and your story is your legacy. I conclude with these questions, if you knew you were dying soon, how would you live your life? What difference have you made in the lives of others? Do you want to leave a good legacy?

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Do not let your allegiance to a political party drives you to animosity

Respect the opinions of others and stop letting politics divide us

Introduction

In most countries, there are two main political parties and the citizens aligned themselves with one of the main parties. In some countries, there are distinct philosophical differences between the main political parties. However, in the Caribbean, particularly in the Turks and Caicos Islands, there are no fundamental differences between the two main political parties, but we have allowed our allegiance to these political parties to drive us to animosity. Even if there were differences, we should not allow our political allegiance to cause us to hate others and assassinate the characters of others.

The current political process is designed to divide and conquer us, and we have fallen for it. It is time we open our eyes and realize that fighting over political parties does not make any sense. There is nothing wrong with an individual preferring one of the parties and so we must learn to respect the choice of others.

Divide and conquer

Based on my observations, one of the greatest factors for the division in the country is due to politics. Some people are not talking to others because of politics. Some people rather attack individuals than to attack the real issues in the country. As a result of the attack on individuals, a division is created, and hatred takes place. You see when you attack one individual, you are not only impacting that one individual, but you are also affecting the family and friends of that individual and so you have a country divided over politics. Do we want a divided country? If we are divided, how much can we accomplished. Perhaps, one of the reasons we the citizens are so far behind is because we are too divided over politics and so we cannot unite on tackling some of the main issues affecting our country because we see everything as blue and yellow.

Our country is too small to be divided over politics. The church is divided over politics and unfortunately some are using the pulpit to promote and attack the political parties when there are members who are split over political choices. Stick to the word of God and stop being political. Now of course, if any Government plans to pass laws that are contrary to word of God, then yes, we need to use the pulpit to deal with it. We must always encourage the country to pray and repent of their sins and you can do this without attacking individuals or the political party.

Family and friends are divided over politics.   In 2007, it was a wakeup call for me when one of my closest friends ran on a political party that I did not support. Do not let the love for a party destroy your relationship with your family and friends which leads me to the next point which is we should respect the opinions of others.

Respect the opinions

Everybody has an opinion about something. However, the moment someone expresses an opinion especially if it is about the decisions or the lack of decisions the Government is not doing, that person will more than likely be attacked.  You see we must learn to respect the opinions of others and try to see what message you can get from those opinions. I started writing when the previous administration and I have been attacked multiple and I even lost friendship with some individuals, individuals who I thought were matured enough to accept and respect my opinions. Somehow, they thought I was against the Government. There is a new Government now and the format of my writings have not changed. You see some people believe you are like them because some of them cannot see anything beyond their allegiance to that political party.

Conclusion

We are too obsessed with the two main political parties where it is almost like a cult for some. Because of obsession, we cannot see anything wrong with the party we support but we use our energy to see the wrong in those that oppose the party we support. As a result, we become bitter, angry, and upset with others which leads to division in a country. Too many of us preach unity publicly but secretly we are plotting the downfall of others because of their political preference.

We need to open our eyes and stop being blinded by politics. We complained about outsiders taking over and one reason they are taking over is because they are united with one common goal. We are divided over politics so we cannot come together. I repeat open your eyes and see there is no difference between the two political parties. If some of the politicians can get along, why can’t we unite?

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Encourage, empower, and inspire others

Do it frequently and consistently

Introduction

Despite the world having billions of people inhabiting it, thousands of people feel alone. Some people feel alone because they don’t trust others and they experience so many disappointments and betrayals in life. Sometimes it is from their own family members and close friends.

As I said in my book, previous articles, and my talk show, you don’t need validation from others but certainly we should encourage, empower, and inspire others.

Many of us spend a lot of our energy destroying the characters of others and talking about all the negative things in life. As a result, so many people are discouraged and depressed.

There is nothing wrong with discussing the negative things in life, but wouldn’t it be great if we can find a balance and use half of our energy to also encourage, empower, and inspire others. Now when we do this, let us do this frequently and consistently because many people require this encouragement constantly. Some people perhaps just need a once-a-year encouragement, but I believe the average person needs encouragement all the time as the one-off encouragement will not be effective.

Encourage, empower, and inspire others

Everybody should be encouraged. Your spouse needs encouragement. Your children need encouragement. Your pastor needs encouragement. Your employees need encouragement. The employer needs encouragement. The Government needs encouragement. Basically, everybody needs encouragement and encouragement can be done in many ways. When you see someone doing something or trying to do something, encourage them. Don’t throw shade at them or discourage them.  On the other hand, if you see someone not doing anything, encourage them to do something

I admire individuals that are going to the schools on a regular basis to encourage the young men and women. Some of these kids just need a mentor, someone that really cares and can direct them to live a better life. Some of these children just need encouragement for them to do the right thing. Some of them come from discouraged environments and so they feel hopeless and unworthy consequently suffering from low-self and inferiority complex.

We are so quick to identify the mistakes and shortcomings of others and slow to encourage others of their accomplishments. It appears that people rather discourage others than to encourage them.

Many people are searching for their purpose in life, and they are trying and doing different things. Who are we to say that is not their calling?  Who are we trying to figure out their agenda? Let us not be judgmental but rather let us be encouragers.

There are some employees who feel like quitting their jobs because they are discouraged. If employees are encouraged on a regular basis, they will stay on the job. Yes, employees are getting paid for their jobs but a simple encouragement will go a long way.

Bosses need encouragement too. Being a boss can be lonely. You are all up night working and perhaps the first person on the job in the morning. Encourage your boss today by letting them you appreciate them. Offer to help in other areas outside the scope of your job.

There are some pastors who are discouraged. All some members do is to find faults with the sermons rather than encouraging their pastors and seeing how they can help in the ministries. Some pastors pure encouragement into the lives of their members and followers but no one is putting encouragement into their lives. You can do this by simply letting your pastor know that you were blessed by the sermon.

There are some spouses who feel like giving up on their marriage because their spouses do not encourage them. They feel alone in the marriage. Take time out on a regular basis to encourage your spouse, otherwise someone else will. Stop focusing solely on what they are not doing but rather thank them always for what they are doing.

Conclusion

If each person were to make their business to encourage others, the world will be in better position. It does not take anything away from you to encourage people. God wants us to encourage and build one another up.  The word of Lord in 1 Thessalonians 5:11 states “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

I know some of you who are the encouragers feel like you are not being impactful. I can assure you, that you are uplifting others even if they do not say so.

For those of you are discouraged, find someone or something that can uplift you. I believe having access to encouragement is your breakthrough to your destination.

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